The economic downturn and its impacts on people in all walks of life and all socioeconomic classes have resulted in too many people living a lie.
While the trials, tribulations, and challenges that we all face will, in the end, will make us better, more grateful and stronger people.
However, during these hard times, you can’t help but feel fear, loneliness, despair, impoverishment, seeming hopelessness, sadness, and depression, but there are some tried and true methods, which can help ease your suffering and enable you to remain true to yourself.
Here are top 10 ways to remain true to yourself at those most trying moments of your life and live with confidence, poise, and authenticity.
Being True to Yourself: 10 Ways to Live Authentically
1. Growth only occurs in overcoming adversity
There never was truer than the old proverb: “what does not kill you makes you stronger”. First, know that each challenge we face in our lives – and this is most true of the large, life-altering challenges – provides us with the seeds of opportunity to grow beyond anything you may have previously imagined. Peak performing athletes will tell you that they have managed to morph the pre-game fear and jitters into the best performances of their lives. Think of the challenge you are now facing as an opportunity to accelerate into your future to a far better place. The bigger the challenge you overcome, the faster and further you will be able to go. Life has given you a big, fat, lemon, but it is possible that you are simply teetering on the precipice of success, and it is only when you take the leap that you will realize your true potential.
2. Plan and do, but make sure you do
It is important that one takes action during these challenging times. If possible, however, make sure you are not simply taking off in different, unfocused, or non-purposeful directions, which moves you away from your path. Sometimes diversions are required to survive, but it is important to be true to yourself and your own, personal, individual track. Get a vision of who you want to be; what you want to do; what you want for your family; then acquire the necessary skills and knowledge; set forth with action to get to where it is you have designed your life to end up. Do not just plan, however, as planning will lead to nothingness. You will need to act or “do”. In doing, there is a great release of energy, enthusiasm, and purpose. Be purposeful in your actions and you will succeed.
3. Be careful with whom you associate
If you surround yourself with people who are displeased, bitter, angry, hopeless, and are content to wallow in their misery and bring others into their ambit of negativity, then you will become this way. Take charge of who you truly are and what you really want, and make sure to surround yourself with people who want you to be and to do all you can. If you find your network of associates and friends do not have your best interests at heart, then slowly evolve away from this group. Moving away too quickly, however, and cutting all ties with friends and family may have the doubled edged effect of creating social isolation, which is a not a place you need to be during this time. But, be careful.
4. Look for opportunities to regain hope
You may have lost your job, your home, your health and perhaps even your friends or family. In these instances, you need to understand that hope still exists and then anything is possible. I’m not talking about “lottery style” turnarounds, but rather that a shift in direction and accelerated growth is possible if you take purposeful action and focus your energy, time, and efforts in a direction that are consistent with who you are and what you can do. If you believe in a god, it is very important that you take up the daily prayer. Do not expect swift and immediate turnaround from the Supreme Being (although, this may occur), but rather simply take comfort and solace in the notion that there are greater forces than you in the universe, and that the fates are not conspiring against you, personally. If you are atheistic or agnostic, meditate and breathe. Find that place of connectedness with who you are in the world, and know that we are all made of the same molecular stuff and that there is a harmony within and between all things.
5. Go exercise
There is no better way to burn-off negative energy and feel better than exercising. This temporary relief also allows you the respite you need to sally forth in a strong and confident manner in the hours, days and months ahead. If you’re unable to exercise, then find a new hobby or rekindle an old hobby that allows you to focus on something other than your state of mind. Remember, “a change is as good as a rest”.
6. Revisit nature
Go into the forest or even take a walk in a place of quiet solitude in the city. Look around. See, hear, smell, touch and otherwise experience the flora and fauna that surround you (careful about the touch part). Hug a tree. In the end, simply breathe in the air – count each breath up to 100. If you have a dog or cat, pet them and love them. Accept their energy into your soul.
7. Have a good cry
Do not underestimate the healing and restorative effects of just having a good bawl. Crying is a natural way of realizing emotions, fear, anxiety, and other emotional feelings that need to be released. Men, in particular, may find this difficult and yet need it more than anyone. Believe me, after you finish crying, you will feel better. Get back on that horse, and proceed into a future of hope.
8. Seek out help
No one is an island. “Going it alone” through life is possible, but so much more can be accomplished and achieved if you rely on and associate with others. If you find that your troubles are overwhelming, seek out and find help. There are numerous organizations available – religious, community-based, and otherwise which may offer assistance, support, advice, and counseling. Often, and despite the obvious news reporting that we are all in dire straits, we feel alone in our pain, fear, and anxiety. The truth is, we are not alone. Millions of people are experiencing similar or even worse situations than us. Sometimes getting together and relating with others in similar circumstances can provide us with the strength to move forward in an energized and focused manner.
9. Do not limit the possibilities or opportunities
If you have convinced yourself that staying where you are – either physically, mentally, geographically, or in any other interpretation, then you have already limited the opportunities that may await you. Open yourself up to any and all opportunities. If your success and the success of your family means moving to a different town or city, then consider it and do it. If trying something a bit different than what you were trained to do improves the odds of success, then do it. Furthermore, do not pigeon-hole yourself with your resume or your work history. We all have a myriad of talents, knowledge, skills, and work abilities that we can exchange for money.
10. Stay Calm and Focused at trying moments
During difficult times, be gentle with yourself. Avoid the all or nothing trap that some people get immersed into believing. The situation you are in is temporary. You are not destined to live-out your life in a state of despair, failure, fear or pain. You have the right to happiness, success, contentment, and to life a life that is free of abject worry and fear. With purposeful planning and taking action, you will get to where you want to be.
In conclusion, we are in charge of ourselves and there is no better way to describe this that how Shakespeare advised us to be true to ourselves with his famous quote:
“To Thine Own Self Be True.”
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Love and Light,